You’re dismissed

I like phrases, idioms and cliches, one thing I really enjoy is learning the origin and meaning behind these, but there is one saying I never liked. In fact I heard it for the first time when I was around ten years old and thought it was stupid. The saying; “you can’t have your cake and eat it too”. Being ten years old at the time I thought, well that’s dumb, what else are you supposed to do with your cake if you can’t eat it?

And that was that, I never allowed myself to think on it for a minute longer, it was a stupid saying, it didn’t make sense and I dismissed it. I refused to dwell on it. It was dismissed.

As I got older I heard it being used form time to time and somehow knew that it had something to do with not having it both ways, but how or why I didn’t know as it was stupid and I didn’t care to find out. I wasn’t going to waste any of my precious time thinking about it. One evening (recently) during conversation my boyfriend pointed out the meaning to me, saying that you can’t eat your cake if you have already had it. MIND BLOWN!

 Well duh, you say (insert laugh at my ignorant expense)

Then I began to think of all the things in life I have dismissed.

• Great opportunities I have missed out on, because of preconceived notions
• Friendships not made because of the wrong first impression
• Choices made with only one sided information
• Conclusions jumped to because of assumptions

I have decided that from now on I will…

Not judge a person based on someone else’s opinion of them, I will take the time to get to know them for myself and form my own opinion.

I will embrace more opportunities and scrutinize, before I dismiss something just because the ‘packaging’ doesn’t appeal to me at first.

I will try expand my experiences and be as open minded as I can, before dismissing things as stupid.

No more living in the comfort zone! Life is for living not coasting along.

The biggest addiction of all

There is an addiction so infectious it is an epidemic. It affects 1 out of every 3 people, and stays with you for life. It costs you money, time and your entire lifestyle will change. It’s called parenting.

Warning signs that you are about to become addicted:

You become broody every time you see a baby. You have the need to nurture and take care of something other than yourself. You feel your biological clock start ticking and you feel the urge to procreate.  You “ooh” and “aaah” over your friends Facebook pictures of their children. Your mother starts hinting that she wants grandchildren.

You can tell straight way upon entering someone’s home if they are addicted, there will be photos of their children on walls in frames on canvases almost everywhere. They will have child friendly furniture, gadgets to plug up holes in their electricity sockets. Strange vices around their home called toys, designed to help ease them into their new lifestyle. They will seek out family friendly places to go, where like-minded addicts can hang out and swop stories of their addiction.

Side effects:

Lack of sleep for the first few years, hours of soiled nappies, bedding and clothing. Potty training, sleep training and toddler tantrum sessions. Your life will never be the same, half your income will now be spent keeping up with this addiction.

All is not lost, there are websites, magazines and even support groups out there designed to help you cope with this particular addiction. Some people even feel the need to do it over and over again, by having more than one child.

There is good news though; it will make you far happier than anything you have ever experienced. The joy of being a parent (birth or adoption) is more than worth the sleepless nights and the damage to your financial security. I am happy to say, this is one addiction I will never beat.

I have however, discovered and new and just as dangerous addiction, grand parenting!!!

I am a woman I can........

I am a woman I can change my outfit five times before we leave the house and still complain about not feeling happy with my choice.

I am a woman I am soft hearted, sensitive and moody at times, but I still expect you to understand the many facets of me without questioning the mood swings.

I am a woman I can become irrational at certain times of the month, yell, cry and laugh all in one hour and still expect you to be understanding and compassionate with me.

I am a woman I am strong, independent, loving and kind. I want you to be supportive, gentle, sensitive and strong for me.

I am a woman I can be indecisive and demanding and sometimes challenging, but require you to be cool, calm and collected at these points in time.

I am a woman I want my man to be strong and manly, to throw me up against the wall and ravish me when the timing is right (and to instinctively know when that is) but I also want him to be sensitive enough to know when to share his feelings, and watch Twilight with me without complaining.

I am a woman I am obsessed with fashion, shiny things and frivolous conversations, I want my man to be able to be my lover, my rock and my best friend.

I am a woman, I am complicated and although I know you will never fully understand me, that my mind is an enigma to you, I love you for putting up with me and all my idiosyncrasies.

You are a man and you are all these things!

I love you Scott